Oh no you didn’t. Yes there are a lot of people who want to be all up in your Koolaid. They know exactly how you should live. Give them the license – confess a problem, make a suggestion or ask for help on a small matter — and honey it’s like having a vampire come into your house. They are harder to get out than roaches. Some of these folks are relatives and yes even with them I have found I have to “put the brakes on the bus” and as Reverend Lance Watson said, tell them “this is your stop- get off.” Self-esteem, at least in humans, is made not born. Lucky for me I have role models in Roxie and Jean Claude who know their place in the world and love me unconditionally.