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Validating Circumstances

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There is discussion these days about the impact that our friends and our lifestyle decisions have on our personal and professional development.  New research shows we tend to develop traits of those with whom we spend the most time.  Experts say our “Top Five” play a role in our decisions.  As the  adage goes: ” We are the company we keep.” Often, we don’t have a choice.  Our families, for instance.  Sometimes we find ourselves alone,  or with friends who don’t have our interest at heart but wield influence.  Sometimes we may simply be on a crowded bus or airplane for a sustained period.   Worse,  many of us daily must be part of less-than healthy work environments that offer no opportunity for growth, personally or professionally.

 

We are not at the mercy of others. We are valuable.   Our thoughts are powerful.  Daily, we have the opportunity to make choices that validate us.    We can dismiss situations in which our personhood is not valued if not physically, then at least mentally.   No is not a four-letter word.   We can detach from people who consistently invalidate us by constant criticism,  lateness, manipulation or misuse of our time.  The same for clients or employers who don’t  treat us well or compensate us appropriately.     When no one else is in the room, or when emotional terrorists seek to destroy us, we are still armed.  We have God. We have ourselves.

Your Space: Paws Make the Difference

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Although she still comes to  Brookland, DC periodically for a visit, Koko spends most of her time now at  her Philadephia residence with CCL.  The Philly townhouse does not provide much in terms of yard space but it does have a spacious basement where Koko seems quite content. After more cement was added,  Koko  put her own decorating touches on the floor of the basement in CCL’s  house.  HGTV take note!

 

Setting limits

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Came across this from the CAT archive. Really fitting as I have to make some tough decisions this week. #catsandallthat

Boundaries

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Azeena seems to think that I’m too hard on Koko. However, Koko needs to know her limits.

I used to love the show “It’s me or the dog” which came on Animal Planet. The original British version which was 1/2 in length before they brought it to America and ruined it. One of the things Victoria Stillwell said was that animals need to know what’s acceptable and what’s not. Now you can do this through training and association, i.e. Pavlov but w/o the shocks and that’s all I’m doing. Animals prefer to the limits because they know what they can do.

Koko doesn’t mind. She loves me. In fact, she loves me so much she has decided that anytime I bend over, she’s going to jump on my back. Here is a picture of her doing it while she cleans herself.

Koko jumps on my back Koko jumps on my back

Ah yes. Koko also…

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Friends and Editors

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We all need friends and as we grow older we need them even more.  How do you choose friends?  The best friends are gentle editors.  They may lead by example and help you develop a draft.  They offer a suggestion and help you determine whether to put a comma or a period in a situation. Envy is not in their vocabulary.   When your life narrative is off course, they help you get back on track.  Still, we must take ultimate responsibility for our life decisions.

It takes time for some of us to become editor-in-chief of our own lives.  We are often thwarted when toxic grammar or false facts interrupt our flow.  It helps to remember our friends are there to guide us with God as publisher.

  Koko at Work

Peace

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Koko is sitting on my lap as a repost this blog.

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There are some who seek drama and excitement at every turn.  Life for them is reality TV – anything but real – never peaceful.

The soul  needs the subtle nuturing  that only a moment of quiet  and peace can bring – ok maybe in Brookland DC birds are still  chirping.   Try a quiet prayer, look up, a yoga pose – but a moment

Regardless of religious belief or practice, there are ways to find a moment for soul renewal – even if it’s just to sit in one’s backyard with a good book for five minutes.image

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