To heal it is necessary to remove yourself from people and situations that cause you pain and confusion. Giving someone the benefit of the doubt does not resolve the situation. If someone is standing on your foot it hurts. If you tell the person to stop and they keep coming back to step on your foot in the name of friendship or professional courtesy- it still hurts or at least annoying. It’s a cycle of pain. You have the power to stop it. It’s time to let go.
I am increasingly convinced that there are people that are born with a hole in their soul. We all know them – people who are convinced of their own greatness. They lack empathy for others and are not only totally self-involved but devoid of anything resembling compassion. They treat others like toys to be manipulated. The spotlight must be on them at all time . Pettiness is their tour de force.
Until recently cats were often characterized as resembling these selfish, unfeeling souls. Recent evidence such as Tara the rescue cat who saved her four-year old charge from a dog indicates otherwise. Thanks to digital and social media there are the numerous examples of cats as heroes, singers, gate keepers and cats in nursing homes who offer comfort to those in pain or who are dying. I’m reminded of the kindness of cats when Koko comes to cuddle and watch Netflix with me or Jean Claude, sensing I’m feeling down, comes to play or rub again me. Cats can be kind and can serve as an example for us human beings as well.
So recently, Koko has been back to climbing trees. I love it. She started off as a climber as kitten. She would climb anything and everything without fear. I was able to catch video of her out on a limb. She was perfectly happy but started freaking out when she heard me calling her because she couldn’t get down. But I knew exactly what to do.
I left her alone to figure it out.
Sometimes, we mean well, but the best way to offer support is to walk away. Sometimes giving the people we love the space to figure it out on their own is the best.
And sure enough, I went back into the house. Not too long after Koko came in for her hugs and well deserved accolades.
You can see the video here
The last the two weeks have been full of adventure in terms of my professional career with some travel and a lot of catching up with old friends and making new friends. I also along with CCL got a sneak peak at something very exciting. During such stressful business activity, it is wonderful to have friends and family and of Jean Claude and Koko who provide endless entertainment when I am home. I am still struck by those who by virtue of their being, despite fame and fortune, who invite loneliness by their behavior – their constant need for attention, demands. Others and other people’s time don’t matter in their world. They are selfish to the point of claiming ownership over others time, they stalk people through Social Media and other means, never grasping that their oneness is something that they have created. In times like these prayer is the answer.