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Validating Circumstances

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There is discussion these days about the impact that our friends and our lifestyle decisions have on our personal and professional development.  New research shows we tend to develop traits of those with whom we spend the most time.  Experts say our “Top Five” play a role in our decisions.  As the  adage goes: ” We are the company we keep.” Often, we don’t have a choice.  Our families, for instance.  Sometimes we find ourselves alone,  or with friends who don’t have our interest at heart but wield influence.  Sometimes we may simply be on a crowded bus or airplane for a sustained period.   Worse,  many of us daily must be part of less-than healthy work environments that offer no opportunity for growth, personally or professionally.

 

We are not at the mercy of others. We are valuable.   Our thoughts are powerful.  Daily, we have the opportunity to make choices that validate us.    We can dismiss situations in which our personhood is not valued if not physically, then at least mentally.   No is not a four-letter word.   We can detach from people who consistently invalidate us by constant criticism,  lateness, manipulation or misuse of our time.  The same for clients or employers who don’t  treat us well or compensate us appropriately.     When no one else is in the room, or when emotional terrorists seek to destroy us, we are still armed.  We have God. We have ourselves.

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Here Is Wonderful

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For  many  2016 was a tough year.  For some including me it was a time  to let go of some situations and people who were not conducive to personal or professional growth.  We’re here  now  -2017 has arrived.  The New Year brings us promise  and hope for positive change.   As I move in a new  direction  with a new year  in bloom, despite challenges, there is a  is a lot to be grateful for  and I am happy that I am present.    I learned to enjoy life without the need for prestige.   I have a wonderful group of friends I enjoy.   I  live in a wonderful neighborhood, Brookland, DC.  It has taken  me years to get to a place where I choose peace and I am still not an expert.   It helps that Koko is one of my “life coaches.”    Though she likes attention,  for Koko it’s often a  matter of finding the right box for a nap.

 

Koko takes a nap

Koko takes a nap