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Master of My Fate

The last two lines of the poem “Invictus” by William Henley are:

I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
I have a copy of this poem in my house since I’m a Delta. But the last two lines are lines that everyone knows. I thought of this because Azeena has me addicted to a game called Harbor Master. The point of the game (which is played on a touchscreen device) is to guide ships in and out of the harbor safely after they have docked and unloaded their cargo. In the beginning it’s easy with few ships, but as you get further into the game, ships come at varying speeds and you need much better navigational skills. As harbor master, you’ll have a lot going on.

With cats, there’s always craziness at the house. Anyone with more than two cats will always have some story about something turned over, broken, peed on, scratched, chewed and the list goes on. But while you can’t control the cats, you can control your response. You are the master of your fate. To often we feel like we are trapped by circumstance, when we are trapped by our own inability to feel like we can act. You can’t guarantee the outcome, but you can have the choice. For example, if you don’t like your job you can quit. You might not be able to find another job, but at least you won’t be in the old one. If you are in a relationship that isn’t working out, you have the choice to leave or change your behavior. The other person may not respond the way you want them to, but you have a choice.

In fact, the only area of my life where I am NOT the captain of my fate is trying to keep Roxie out of trouble and Jean-Claude inside. Cats are animals that you can’t master. I have mastered responding to their signals for “feed me now” “play time” and “change the litterbox” so maybe they are truly the masters of my fate.

Take a Step Back to Look Forward

Do cats have memories of the past? You can teach animals new tricks through either positive reinforcement (i.e. giving them a treat when they do something right) or negative reinforcement (punishing them when they do something wrong). Study after study shows that positive reinforcement works much better and creates better memory than negative reinforcement. And this is true of humans too! If you want to really change and influence behavior reward those behaviors that you want to see and people will keep doing them. But I digress.

Very often in this new world we’ve created we don’t take the time to look back. We don’t have the time to reread old journals, look at old pictures and remember the good and bad times and how far we’ve come. I was cleaning out my email a bit and I found my stash of poetry I had from my college days. It took me back to so many memories and allowed me the perspective to see where I’ve come today.

You have to know where you come from to be able to know where you are going. It’s ok to change direction. Maybe where you came from was to the east and now you want to go west. You can change. Don’t disparage where you came from either. It allowed you to be in the position you are today. If Roxie had never been found in that bush, she wouldn’t have been in the shelter to tap me on the leg and to keep me up at night because she’s mad at me.

Well it’s a New Year!

And there were lots of things that went on last year. Azeena has been pressuring me to blog but I keep forgetting that I can blog through email. That’s much easier for me. So recently, Roxie went to the vet. She’s a natural born trouble maker but we still love her anyway. Roxie will always get herself into trouble whether it’s running outside and down the street but all we can do is try to protect her best we can and help her get herself right when she does get into trouble. However, she will be getting health insurance ASAP!

Both of the cats are extremely different (which if you’ve been reading this blog you can tell). Jean-Claude is relaxed and chill and very smart. He can go outside and will merely knock on the door when he’s ready. He’s also a loving cat, but likes to do his own thing. Roxie on the other hand has a need to be around her people. She follows me and my mom through the house and at night must be snuggled in bed next to either CCL or Azeena (depending on whose house she’s at).

We haven’t talked about it on the blog, but recently both CCL and Azeena started new businesses. We’ve both been navigating through the ups and downs of taking on the new challenges a business creates. It’s a great experience for learning both about yourself and about other people. to make a business successful ultimately it comes down to what can you give your customers and has nothing whatsover to do with you.

Finding Inspiration

Burmese Cat Filmed on black velvet

I saw this watching Big Cat week on National Geographic.  This tiny lion cub touched me.  His tenacity, his unwillingness to give up.  In the end, he had to be left, but I wish that I had more of junior’s drive. Rewatching this video moved me to tears for sure

http://animals.nationalgeographic.com/wild/community/blogs/inside-wild/

Big Cats are going away and you can help them at – causeanuproar.org.

An easy way to donate is to text “lions” to 50555 and you can donate $10 to help save the Big Cats

So apparently I come by it naturally

I’ve always thought that I was a cat person and that my parents merely tolerated my love of those feline critters.  How wrong I was!

Having my mother look after Jean-Claude and Roxie, I see that she too is a cat love and now, I just found out my father is a cat person!

He called me one day, from SC where he lives, to tell me that a cat kept coming around and he was feeding it.  Fast forward to a week later and the cat has moved in.  Now he calls me with cat questions and cat updates.  It’s the cutest thing (for the Family Guy fans, he’s acting just like Quagmire did when he got James).  And the Cat (no name) is acting just like a cat.  She wants to eat when she wants, be petted when she’s ready and has adopted the second bedroom as her own.  She follows him around the house and is a good companion.

Cats choose their owners.  Roxie tapped my leg with her paw and JC threw himself around my mom’s neck.  In life most of us have this same instinct of “family”.  People we just met that we feel like we’ve known for years.  People we know will be a part of our life and people who can come in and out.

Here’s an email my dad sent me on Cat:

“Cat” seems perfectly fine that there are only 2 of us here. She spends her days sleeping and prowling, but last week when I had tours, she was shocked to stay outside all day. She hates the cold. If put out, she meows and hangs around until I let her in. Most cats escape; she’s the opposite. Within 15 min. oft my coming back, she’ll see the light on or hear movement and show up.

Now she wants to eat all the time. She thinks whenever I go to the kitchen she’s supposed to be fed. When she’s really full, she sacks out in [the guest] room. Otherwise, she’s burrowing under the covers, where she plays contently, or walking across my chest, after looking me straight in the eye from 3 inches away. She placed her dish next to the refrigerator where she prefers it. She likes dining out, too. On the step. She’s such a time player! Very in tune and intelligent. Plays w/ others well.